Are you at a point in your life where you feel like you are afraid to make the next move because you feel you are not ready? And you end up with lots of excuses like you don't want to get that dream job or move up because you feel obliged to stay back in your hometown. That looks like a very valid excuse until you examine further what the real reason is for that excuse.
You are afraid to get help such as coaching because you are actually afraid of the person you will become when you actually take the step.
Whenever you are in a place of indecision, it's taunted by fears. Fears of the unknown. Fears that does not sound like fears but are actually excuses that you will make up to give yourself reasons not to decide.
So what are your fears? Are you perhaps afraid that when you make that move, that your business will not take off? Is that why you still cling on to a corporate job and continue to be miserable. Not everyone wants to start a business so I am talking to those who has such a desire. Know that they want to but are holding back.
So my point is whenever you are at the crossroads of indecision. It's held back by fears. And the only way to move forward and get the success and freedom you crave is to make a decision. A non-decision is also a decision. It just means that you don't want to do anything to change your life. You are still stuck in the current reality and mud. A mud that strangely most people love to cling to.
People actually love their mud because it is familiar. And although they are aware that things are not working and they want a change (like some faint distance echo that they barely recognise) but staying put feels good. It is familiar. Even though it hurts.
I never really understood this concept. I always thought that if you don't like your situation - change it coz you have the power to. Now being in coaching and speaking to so many people, I am beginning to realise that people are at the very core afraid of change. Any kind of change, even if it's the change for the better.
Ask yourself. Do you want to change? Or are you too afraid to step up because you are afraid. Even though you know that stepping up is actually good for you but still you are afraid and you give yourself many different excuses to camouflage the fears. Excuses are just camouflage. They are actually fears in disguise.
I can help you to step up. To create a new life. To change and become the person you want to be. To transform. Are you afraid to make that move? If you somehow actually want to but are still in indecision, I can help.
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You owe it to yourself to make a decision to step up. How many more years do you want to wait? How many lives do you want to live before making a decision. Investing in yourself is the greatest gift you can gift to yourself.
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What's your why to doing what you are doing?
The WHY question is important. Lately, it seems like my clients are telling me that they feel lazy, not motivated especially when it comes to making calls to prospects. And if you are in sales, you know this feeling all too well.
So I will ask this question - what's your why? If you don't jump out of bed feeling excited and motivated to do the things you do - and I mean largely your job or God forbid, your business. Then why do you even do it?
Dragging your feet in your job isn't a great place to be. And if you are in sales, you can't possibly close sales or generate sales if you are dragging your feet or simply feeling low and demotivated.
I guess if you are in sales - especially the energy required for sales is an upbeat energy, not the lazy, I wish I don't have to go and see that client energy. Because guess what, if you don't feel like seeing the client. Then she/he will feel your energy and there will be no sale....
The other interesting thing that I noticed is that insurance agents, at least those whom I have been speaking to anyway - tell me that they do not like what they are doing. It's not their passion and they do it for the money and it's a job.
I find this super interesting ...
I guess if you want to choose a vocation, and one such as being an insurance agent, it's practically your own business and you don't actually like it?.....
I do know lot's of people who do things/business because of the money. And money in itself as a motivation, contrary to popular believe, isn't going to get you the results you desire.
Coz money in itself is an object. Just MONEY. PERIOD.
But what is it that you associate money with? That's what will drive you to achieve your results you crave. That's what I have to say for now...
If you like what you are reading, and if you would like to work with me on a 1-1 basis. I offer personal coaching where I can help you obtain and achieve the desires that you crave for such as sales or a dream job.
The work we do is deep work - coz you are not just a sales machine or an employee, you are a whole person. Which is why every other aspect of you affects the way you do something in one area. It cannot be compartmentalize. Although, we seem to think that we can.... This subject is a topic for another discussion.
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Have you ever been faced with challenges and then you tell yourself you will figure it out. And you are so dead bent on figuring it out and sorting this out because it's well - not working.
I remember when I was a programmer eons ago that I would spent days solving a programming code or bug and it was intense. I am not usually one who would ask for help so I would literally spent hours upon hours - sometimes even dreaming of codes LOL and I actually do get some of my solution to my programming problems in my sleep!! Yes - this is a topic for another day. Solutions in your sleep....
Back to the topic on figuring it out. So that's essentially me and back to now. With my internet business, I tend to have technical challenges that needs to be resolved or tweaking stuff etc and it does get intense figuring out what to do and how to do it technically. I am not exactly technically challenged as I have my background eons ago as a programmer but still... that was a long time ago and sometimes it is frustrating.
What I have learned lately is to be more open for help. Like in the past, I spent lots of time figuring things out myself, spent days in frustration solving a problem when actually, there is always help available. I was just to proud to reach for help.
And now I do - I mean when I can't figure things out on my own, I will reach for help and the strange thing is - when the student is ready - the teacher appears. So I have had help in many different forms - sometimes its my colleagues - if I was back in corporate, but lately its really help in many different forms - people I know. My mentors, coaches.
Btw, I do have many coaches - even right now. As a coach - you need constant coaching as well as you need to be constantly developing yourselves in so many different areas.
Well, the moral of the story. You don't have to figure out on your own. And really sometimes - it's hard to figure things out that you don't even know. My famous quote is
"You don't know what you don't know"
so how do you figure out if your sales presentation is good enough or your convincing skill is at top notch.
How do you figure out if you had make any mistakes in that interview when you don't even know you had made a mistake? So my point is - you really don't know ... and unless you have someone - a coach to guide you. You will never really know.
You don't know if you are doing it right in the first place. And in the case of a sales presentation - the opportunity is gone. Same with interviews. In cases like these, you can't afford to waste time to figure it out on your own. You need help to course correct and to course correct quickly so that you perfect the skills to optimise success.
That's when a coach comes in handy...
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No need to figure it out yourself. You get the help you need. And you will be surprised, the investment in a coach - the return is well - 200% or more! Surprise?
Refer to this article on coaching from Life Coach Training. Because how can you put a figure to happiness? How much would you associate the cost of being happy and joyful? It cannot be measured. It's more than being able to get that job promotion which gives you $X amount or close the sale which gives you $Y amount.
Coaching is holistic and elevate you to the next level. It is transformational. You become a much better version of yourself, happier, confident, and standing in your power to take on the world. Now how much is that worth?
The problem isn't outside of you.
Every time you feel unhappy or feel like the world is out to get you. Like maybe you feel like your colleagues, your boss, your in-laws, your spouse or whoever is hell bent on getting at you or making life difficult for you. You are mistaken. It's not them. It's you.
Difficult to swallow?
The reason why the problem isn't outside of you is because you are the universe and your outer reality is merely a mirror reflection of what is going on inside you. If you do intense personal development, this isn't something new. For those of you who are new to this concept, you will probably want to choke by now.
Wait a minute!! My problems are created by me? But wait. That colleage of mine is an absolute idiot!! I hate the very sight of him and in fact I find him totally repulsive. Hahaha... know why I can say that? I said the same thing and I recalled that there is one particular individual that I really hated at work and I can write an entire book about just how horrible and nasty he is.
But by now, I do know that the problem wasn't with him. Believe me, if you had told me when I was working in that particular company and I was needing to face him and inevitably having to interact with him, I would find it superbly hard to believe that the problem was with me!! Like what??? It's him. Surely???
To the present moment, yesterday I had a particularly hard time with a certain individual and I was wondering why. This morning it struck me. I get all my insights in the morning when I meditate, give thanks and the works.
So it struck me that I had a certain thinking about the individual and it has then caused such a reaction without me being very conscious of it. See, how just a little thought ,when unchecked can escalate into so many unpleasant circumstances. And these are usually not obvious. Until I checked in, I would not know. And if I had not had the level of consciousness I have now, I would certainly think the problem is all with the other person and the relationship would have just gone worst and worst.
I know all these that I have said are easier said than done and it is very very hard especially when you are feeling so infuriated that you almost feel like you want to fume and stream and whatever is your thing when you get mad.
I can assure you that life does not have to be like that. It takes practice. Takes discipline. You can have a life that is smooth and easy with colleagues, bosses and if you need help, CLICK ON THE LINK BELOW FOR A 1-1 DISCOVERY SESSION WITH ME:
Feeling nourished, supported and loved is a feeling that is severely lacking in society today. If you are feeling the lack right now, I assure you, it is not because you are strange.
It is quite normal for people to feel that way, at least the norm of this world. I for one feel this way. I guess you know what I am talking about, the deep inner knowing, that we are taken care of no matter what.
As I was doing my morning meditation and visualisation today, I visualised that I was on a stage, receiving my accolate, and I was filled with a feeling of joy and I realised the feeling I wanted was being loved, supported and nourished.
Don't we all?
At we get some level of support, from our spouse. My husband is wonderful and supportive, my relatives, I have friends who are superbly supportive from all over the world! So I am blessed. But what I am talking about here is really knowing that you are being supported.
It's like if ever you are in destitute, with no money, no nothing - will you still feel supported? Will you be able to know and have complete faith that God/Divine/Universe is there for you. The universe has your back. You are supported.
I find that many many people I speak to have this issue, and a lot of the fears and anxiety comes from this point - where you feel that you need to struggle and work really really hard coz if you don't , hey - hell will break loose.
Or you kind of have this feeling that you really need to work it out, sort things out all on your own because - well, you are on your own. You better get your shit together else you will suffer the consequences.
Although I have always depended on God to support me and lean on Him, I don't think I have ever really believed 100% in my heart that the Universe is taking care of me. That I am nourished, supported and loved - completely.
It has been a journey and as I trust more and more and get into the knowledge of God loving me totally and unconditionally and that I am supported, loved, nourished. I feel so much at peace. Feel so much loved.
Most of us don't have this feeling 100%. But to get to that place really is a practice, my friend. It is a practice of seeking the Divine and getting into a place where you are 100% sure. Like deep in your heart and soul and being to know that. Wow! You know what - if you reached that stage, it's where it is a place of total freedom. No fear. Completely fear free and driven by faith.
No matter what your religion is and what you perceived as God, it is the same concept. If you feel that you are alone and you are doing it on your own. It feels desolate.
You want miracles in your life? Well, stepping into the full knowing and being that you are completely supported is where miracle takes place. BIG MIRACLES. WONDERS takes place.
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Feeling lousy is a choice.
Yes. Everything in life is a choice and that includes feeling lousy. Do you feel at times like you are like banging your head against the wall, where things are not working out and you get all stressed out and anxious and you start to feel really lousy, bad, depressed?
You can change all that - in fact instantly!
You may be saying well - easy for you to say coz everything is going well for you. But no - everything is NOT ALWAYS going ok. It's not possible if you are living on this earth and you are human.
But the fact is you can make a choice in the matter. YOUR FEELINGS!
Why so? Because if you really ask yourself and ask your logical mind about this. What if you are feeling bad? Does that change anything? Say you wake up and you start to think how bad things really are and you kind of like feel down in the dumps. Would that really help? Like would things become better because you are feeling down in the dumps?
You don't feel good and things are not BETTER. In fact, things gets worst. People, situation and circumstances. For example, you may start to scream at your children or your spouse and snap at your colleagues. You get the picture.
So when things aren't going well and you are tempted to feel lousy and bask in the feelings of lousiness (is there such a word? LOL) Then I would suggest you ask yourself this. My behaving and feeling lousy - does that change my environment and circumstance for the better?
And if it does'nt help anything at all, you have a choice. A choice to feel grateful for all the wonderful things that are happening in your life. A choice to make the best of the present situation. And that is to switch your bad feelings to good positive feelings which btw - will change everything. That's when opportunities comes to you and people are attracted to you.
Logical Reason: Because you are pleasant to be with and generally people are attracted to people who are pleasant and nice. And also because you are not so muddled up with your feeling of despair that you see opportunities. Like actually notice and see opportunities! You naturally can't if you are stressed out and anxious.
That's the tip for today.
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