The problem isn't outside of you.
Every time you feel unhappy or feel like the world is out to get you. Like maybe you feel like your colleagues, your boss, your in-laws, your spouse or whoever is hell bent on getting at you or making life difficult for you. You are mistaken. It's not them. It's you.
Difficult to swallow?
The reason why the problem isn't outside of you is because you are the universe and your outer reality is merely a mirror reflection of what is going on inside you. If you do intense personal development, this isn't something new. For those of you who are new to this concept, you will probably want to choke by now.
Wait a minute!! My problems are created by me? But wait. That colleage of mine is an absolute idiot!! I hate the very sight of him and in fact I find him totally repulsive. Hahaha... know why I can say that? I said the same thing and I recalled that there is one particular individual that I really hated at work and I can write an entire book about just how horrible and nasty he is.
But by now, I do know that the problem wasn't with him. Believe me, if you had told me when I was working in that particular company and I was needing to face him and inevitably having to interact with him, I would find it superbly hard to believe that the problem was with me!! Like what??? It's him. Surely???
To the present moment, yesterday I had a particularly hard time with a certain individual and I was wondering why. This morning it struck me. I get all my insights in the morning when I meditate, give thanks and the works.
So it struck me that I had a certain thinking about the individual and it has then caused such a reaction without me being very conscious of it. See, how just a little thought ,when unchecked can escalate into so many unpleasant circumstances. And these are usually not obvious. Until I checked in, I would not know. And if I had not had the level of consciousness I have now, I would certainly think the problem is all with the other person and the relationship would have just gone worst and worst.
I know all these that I have said are easier said than done and it is very very hard especially when you are feeling so infuriated that you almost feel like you want to fume and stream and whatever is your thing when you get mad.
I can assure you that life does not have to be like that. It takes practice. Takes discipline. You can have a life that is smooth and easy with colleagues, bosses and if you need help, CLICK ON THE LINK BELOW FOR A 1-1 DISCOVERY SESSION WITH ME: